This line “I cannot fathom the idea that I won’t be able to manage it on my own.”
I have spent 10 years of mothering feeling this way, and a few months ago decided enough was enough we needed our family around us for support. So we are finally moving back to our home city next month after 13 years away.
I am not entirely sure still why I had this huge obsession of it being my husband and I against the world, that we didn’t need any help and could be all the people and do all the things. But it has taken my autistic youngest child to push me into accepting help.
And I agree with you wholeheartedly that the best way to help can be to either just do something or be specific in what you offer help for. I wrote a post about that a while back as it is the only way I could personally accept help. When I have the capacity I try to drop a friend in need baking or a meal to give her a break as that’s all I can manage around my own children.
This is a great post will definitely be sharing, and thanks to Kamaria for sharing it so I found it in the first place 😀🥰
Aw thanks. I did a search trying to see what post it was in, they all blur! But found it at the end of an interview I did with myself about the challenges of motherhood particularly when a special needs child is in the mix!
What has really helped me is learning to not place my identity in motherhood. My children are gifts from God and they don’t define who I am they are my blessings.
This line “I cannot fathom the idea that I won’t be able to manage it on my own.”
I have spent 10 years of mothering feeling this way, and a few months ago decided enough was enough we needed our family around us for support. So we are finally moving back to our home city next month after 13 years away.
I am not entirely sure still why I had this huge obsession of it being my husband and I against the world, that we didn’t need any help and could be all the people and do all the things. But it has taken my autistic youngest child to push me into accepting help.
And I agree with you wholeheartedly that the best way to help can be to either just do something or be specific in what you offer help for. I wrote a post about that a while back as it is the only way I could personally accept help. When I have the capacity I try to drop a friend in need baking or a meal to give her a break as that’s all I can manage around my own children.
This is a great post will definitely be sharing, and thanks to Kamaria for sharing it so I found it in the first place 😀🥰
Please link that post here too!
Aw thanks. I did a search trying to see what post it was in, they all blur! But found it at the end of an interview I did with myself about the challenges of motherhood particularly when a special needs child is in the mix!
https://open.substack.com/pub/lifewithmars/p/interview-with-myself?r=1n4are&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post
I think you’d enjoying following Sarah Shotts
https://open.substack.com/pub/sarahshotts/p/im-fine?r=1l34q7&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post
Yes I do follow her actually, she is great!
Important conversations and calls to action. ✨❤️ ⭕️
Thank you for reading ❤️
What has really helped me is learning to not place my identity in motherhood. My children are gifts from God and they don’t define who I am they are my blessings.
Yes, it can be a big struggle to know what your identify is if you don’t have God in your life